Hello…and thanks for stopping by to learn much more about my life.
This is offered in Christian love that we might get to know each other more quickly to see if God may bring us together for marriage. If not, we can always stays as friends.
How important is “chemistry?” What are the “Make” and “Break” areas for each of us, and from 1-10 how important are they to us individually? But our goal, I would hope, is a godly marriage that honors Jesus Christ!
Maybe like me, you’re reminded of Ruth and Boaz, one of the most wonderful love stories of the Bible. Like them, I want to “husband” my godly wife: to lovingly care for her by protecting and providing. I hope she is the respectful wife in every way. Then we can be “one” and show the waiting world what Christ intended for His marriage!
Are we both willing to let God mold us and change us? Then He can receive the glory He desires! How? By me as your husband loving you as Christ does His church, and you as my wife respecting and honoring me by submitting in everything legal, moral, and non-abusive.
Nothing is life is “flawless” but the Lord can make a marriage made in heaven. Yes…indeed!
Here is a list of the topics I answer below. First, about me. Then, about you as my wife. Finally, about us. Let’s begin…
About me…
1. Curious like me & willing to let God work; 2. One word description; 3. Jesus relationship; 4. Age & education; 5. Ministry; 6. Spiritual gifts; 7. Spirit filled; 8. Church; 9. Healthy, active & outdoor lifestyle; 10. Kingdom only; 11. Courting for marriage vs dating; 12. Love like Jesus – open communication; 13. Compassionate, bold, walk in prophetic, seriously joyous, playful, best lovers!
About You
14. Godly wife only, 15. Willing to change & grow, 16. Romance & reality – Ruth & Boaz, 17. Wife respect traits – 3 things men need, 18. Homemaker, 19. Admiration daily, 20. Sexual celebration – love to a husband; 21. Caring, compassionate, patient, dependent vs. strong & independent, 22. Handling trials and crisis, 23. 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Titus 2, 24. Submission, 24. Children-grandchildren, 25. Healthy lifestyle, 26. Long distance courtship, 27. Younger wife
About us…
28. Why divorced, 29. Divorce & remarriage, 30. Date night, 31. Hobbies-Recreation, 32. Music, 33. Movies, 34. Foods, 35. Travel, 36. Vacations, 37. Pets, 38. Typical weekday, 39. Typical night, 40. Typical weekend, 41. Early riser, 42. Energetic, 43. Work, 44. Finances, 45. Kingdom citizen vs. patriot, 46. Anger, 47. Care for parents, 49. Marriage now 1-10, 50. Long distance, 51. Relocate, 52. Chocolate, 53. Open doors, 54. Flowers, 52. Toilet seat, 53. One final interesting thing!
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My Answers for you:
About me…
1. Curious like me & willing to let God work
God’s world and His creation and creatures are such a wonder! Personally, I am extremely curious and are constantly allowing the Lord to expand my wisdom and admiration of Him! Perhaps you might share a bit of this too…or enjoy a man like me who does. Are you and I willing to let God work on our hearts to grow us in Christ in every way? Yes…I trust your answer is the same!
2. One word description
Years ago when asked to describe me in one word several believers who knew me fairly well said: solid. I am committed to the truth. A friend, brother in the Lord, and fellow business consultant helped me to clearly see my purpose in God’s kingdom: proclaiming Truth.
3. Jesus relationship
The Lord Jesus saved me from the world and myself in 1987. It was a glorious time, and quite moving to say the least. I owe Him my very life. Perhaps you too have a similar story.
4. Age & education
I was born in Chicago in 1950, to a middle class working family, and am oldest son of Bob and Shirlee White. My father passed in 2011. My health is excellent, am energetic, and easily look and act 10-20 years younger. So people tell me! Many in their 40’s have a difficult time keeping up, although I am not trying to run ahead. We’re reminded of the wonder-full love story of Ruth and Boaz where there was a noticeable difference in age. I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration with a minor in economics, and history from Carthage College in Kenosha, Wisconsin. Also, I have done MBA work at Ball State University.
5. Ministry
All of life is ministry to Christ. The apostle Paul declares whatever we do, we do it for Him! My first ministry is to my new wife. Then to our children and grandchildren. Then to His body at large. My new wife will hopefully see the same priority. I am also the founding Director of a non-profit ministry named Walk Worthy, with this being its main site. It is international in scope, and the Lord has opened doors for 1000’s to visit and grow in Christ.
6. Spiritual gifts
Our gracious Lord has gifted us all upon salvation. Personally, I walk in the prophetic, teach, encourage, and have the gift of discernment. Lastly, He has given me the gift of administration. To be organized and help others to do the same. This gift to to “make ministry happen…” or to “ad” and “minister.” What are your giftings?
7. Spirit filled
Yes, I am. This second work of grace happened over time, as with many. It is a real blessing!
8. Church
Simple non-denominational home church has been the way I have met for over 20 years. It is God’s way specified in the NT after Pentecost. In this fashion, everyone in the body can participate and use their gifting (1 Cor. 14.26). I have been allowed over the years to plant several home churches. I still fellowship with believers who attend the institutional church.
9. Healthy, active & outdoor lifestyle
Ah yes! Years ago I moved to a mostly organic and natural way to live day by day. I am in excellent health, and am quite active. Cooking healthy foods is a real focus too. And I make terrific organic double chocolate brownies! 🙂 The outdoor lifestyle is one I supremely enjoy: the parks, beaches, mountains, biking, hiking, swimming, gardening, and on and on! I also know how to rest my body well to recharge and spend precious hours with the Lord…
10. Kingdom only
Jesus Christ taught more on the Kingdom of God than any other subject. The population, maturation,and completion of the Kingdom is the Father’s eternal purpose that He is carrying out in His King, His beloved Son. Everything that I do with my life in Christ, with His loving help, is done to work with Him in growing His kingdom. Your Kingdom come, dear Lord!
11. Courting for marriage vs dating
For a long time I have believed and taught that holy courtship is the way to discover if a particular man and woman should marry. God can reveal His intentions and will to both! I would promise you I would never be alone with you in a private place. And would covenant never to have sexual relations or anything that might lead to that until the marriage honeymoon. But after that…well, you would just have to wait to see how romantic and passionate I would be with you, der lady!
12. Love like Jesus – open communication
One of the best ways we can love like Jesus is to graciously practice open communication. In this way, we honorably and patiently listen carefully to our spouse, our children, and all who cross our path. Many in the western church are stonewallers and will not reconcile. In my business consulting practice and as a leader in God’s worldwide church, I teach and disciple this open communication skill to many. One of the best illustrations in in the Word in Acts 15 where the new church avoids the first possible church split. Praise God…
13. Compassionate, bold, walk in prophetic, seriously joyous, playful, best lovers!
Yes, it is true! I love in these ways (and some more too): compassionate with a heart as big as Texas, bold in my preaching for His Name, prophetic in calling God’s people back to holiness, joyous in both the wonder and suffering in the life of a modern soldier in Christ, very playful with the wife I can trust implicitly, and…my personality type make the best lovers! I can prove it with my Personality test results…and later, in person if we marry! Will somebody open a window in here? 🙂
About You
14. Godly wife only
A Godly wife is one who loves God with all her heart, soul, mind, and strength. Hopefully, you would agree too. She is willing…willing…to let Him change and grow her in any and every way. Even if she is unable at the present time, she is willing to ask and let the Lord lead her to this new plateau in her life. As her husband, my ministry is to lead and help her to be that woman of excellence (Ruth 3.11).
15. Willing to change & grow
Yes, indeed, a main key to the Lord’s ways is for both of us to be willing…willing…to let Him change and grow us both in any and every way. Without this, no marriage can be a true reflection of His magnificent love…
16. Romance & reality – Ruth & Boaz
The wonder-full story of this couple is an inspiration to countless souls who yearn for the same gracious marriage. We see Ruth as the tender, courageous, and with perseverance, the wholly submissive woman of God. She obeys Naomi in every way and leaves her parents and homeland. She wins the heart of her kinsman-redeemer, Boaz, by her loving and gracious ways. Yet she protects and provides too for her mother-in-law. Ruth and Boaz are in the genealogy in Matthew 1. In reality, we all know marriage is work. But beloved grace is there to make the marriage a testimony of the love of God, and allow you and I to be “one” in Him! We have many resources on this site that help both husband and wife.
17. Wife respect traits – 3 things men need
All of us are complex human creatures made in the very image of our great God. But some things are common to each gender. Men as husbands need 3 things from their wives in order to see respect from them. If they are lacking or done under protest, the husband will know and feel disrespected and dishonored.
18. Homemaker
The #3 thing a husband needs is for a wife than is a homemaker. He loves a home he can retreat to and spend time with his beloved and family…and in quiet time too. A husband likes good cooking, and a neat and clean environment. Me too.
19. Admiration daily
A husband wears many hats in life, and fights many battles for his wife and family. A daily spoken word, tender touch, and admiration can help soothe and build up your husband. She may say something like, “Honey, thanks so much for being faithful to me, and working so hard for me.” This is the #2 way she can respect him.
20. Sexual celebration – true love to your husband
The #1 way a husband knows he is loved and respected by his wife is the joyous, proactive, and frequent sexual celebration. A wife prefers love from her husband first to enter into sexual celebration. The husband prefers sexual celebration from her wife first to enter into love. The wife is the turn style to this exquisite pleasure from our Father. So, in many ways, she can significantly influence the marriage for good or bad in this vital way. Many, many Christian husbands are sexually neglected and even starved. May it never be with us!
21. Caring, compassionate, patient, dependent vs. strong & independent
As a wife, I would pray that you, as I am, would be caring…and compassionate…and patient…and dependent on God. And also me as His protection and provision for you. A woman who boldly declares she is “strong and independent” telegraphs to all men that she has no real need for them. This is the way to emasculate a husband.
22. Handling trials and crisis
We both hope and pray that we are handling the trials and crisis of life with great resiliency in our Lord. We are learning our lessons well, and are not becoming overly frustrated with God or bitter about our suffering for Him.
23. 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Titus
These 3 passages deal with wives and husbands. It’s noteworthy that in each case, the Lord speaks to the wife first. Why? Well, the wife has the 400% greater influence in the marriage. In most cultures throughput history she was also the most vulnerable to the difficulty and threats of life.
24. Submission
This is a greatly misunderstood and maligned doctrine. In a fiercely independent and feminist culture like America, it is fashionable in the church to speak mostly of mutual submission…and virtually ignore submitting in everything to the husband as the Word commands. But Jesus Himself was always submissive to the Father. We must submit right. The wife must submit to her husband in everything legal, moral, and non-abusive. I have written and teach a great deal on this most vital subject.
24. Children-grandchildren
They are definitely a heritage from the Lord! I adore children and grandchildren, as you probably do too. We must help them to be well behaved and obedient. Then they are able to be joyous people. I would welcome yours, as I pray you would mine too!
25. Healthy lifestyle
This type of lifestyle is so wonderful for a full and active life in Christ. I eat very well, take natural supplements, use natural remedies, and exercise daily. My heath overall is excellent. I can’t think of living any other way!
26. Long distance courtship
You may be wondering how this might work for us if it is a long distance courtship. God is so very great and mighty. We both know of amazing and awe inspiring stories. Nothing is impossible with Him. Nothing. If this relationship of us is from our Father, He will see to any dicey details. And our marriage will be glorious. I trust Him implicitly in this. Hopefully, you do too!
27. Younger wife
As a much younger looking and acting man, it may be likely you are younger than me. In the love story of Ruth and Boaz, we know there was an age difference. Yet, God brought these two together for His glory. And these dear saints will be remembered for eternity for their impact on the kingdom of God and inspiring millions to a godly marriage!
About us…
28. Why divorced
29. Divorce & remarriage
30. Date night
31. Hobbies-Recreation
32. Music
33. Movies
34. Foods
35. Travel
36. Vacations
37. Pets
38. Typical weekday
39. Typical night
40. Typical weekend
41. Early riser
42. Energetic
43. Work
44. Finances
45. Kingdom citizen vs. patriot
46. Anger
47. Care for parents
49. Marriage now 1-10
50. Long distance
51. Relocate
52. Chocolate
53. Open doors
Yes, indeed. I always open your door! Certainly, you can do it yourself. That’s not the point. You’re a lady. I’m a man. This is one of a 100 ways I can cherish you as your husband. Our Lord sees me as your protector and provider. He knows what He’s doing!
54. Flowers
Oh yes. Routinely. What are your favorites? One of mine that looks wonder-full in a clear glass vase is the Alstroemeria, the Perivian Lily, and comes in at least a dozen interesting colors.
52. Toilet seat
Down. Always. I too hate falling in! And it’s just plain rude to keep it up. 🙂
53. One final interesting thing!
Well, are you ready for this? I’m experienced in and love giving my wife a tender and full body massage. I kid you not. You can see I have the married massage posted on our ministry site here! Delightful…
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Also, I strongly urge you to take this Personality test from 16 Personalities, a company located in London. Takes 15 minutes. Take the test here. I can send you the Premium Profile for your personality. And I can send you mine too!
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