As with many doctrines in the modern day church, we find an almost solidarity that a spouse should never leave or divorce their spouse. And certainly never remarry.
To add insult to injury, the church most often shields the perpetrator…and punishes the victim further. Never getting to the bottom of the problem by stonewalling that victim, these churches keep the waters smooth and the money flowing. Never rock the boat. And another family tragedy is recorded in God’s kingdom.
What if a so-called “Christian” spouse picks up a gun and shoots at the other…but narrowly misses? And then again the next day with better aim? Do you tell them the first time to at least separate for their life?
Of course…
So then, at what point along the continuum of God’s holy ways are the marriage vows broken? The breaking of the vows are the sin…not the separation or possible divorce with an unrepentant soul.
Our dear brother David Instone-Brewer has a happy marriage, but our Lord has gifted him to be arguably the finest world wide expert at divorce and remarriage in the church. With a compassion unequaled, a heart as big as Texas, and a mind to match, his book here should be required reading for every Christian. Period.
All your questions, as mine were, will be answered as David reveals the ancient ways of God, His marriage covenant-contract in His Word, and ties them to the reality of today’s complex world. It’s that good. There is no better book on the planet.
You may also read his unparalleled divorce and marriage blog, with the fascinating and eye opening letters from the populace like you and me. How can Christian people treat each other like this? You may find yourself on the pages as many do. Read it here.
Buy this resource here.
See brother David’s excellent short video clip series on this topic here.
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From the book description:
Will God allow me to divorce my abusive husband? Would it be a sin if I remarried? Divorce and remarriage are major pastoral issues facing every church. Yet when we turn to Scripture for guidance, we often hear conflicting messages about its teachings. David Instone-Brewer shows how, when properly understood, the New Testament provides faithful, realistic and wise guidance of crucial importance and practical help for the church today.
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Marc
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Mike says
I am looking for help. My wife and I were Christians and missionaries. I fell into an adulterous relationship divorced my wife and married the one with whom I committed adultery. I hate that I did it and regret it terribly. How can I tell if I have adequately repented? Would love to correspond with someone who knows these things. I do not aspire to church leadership due to this and only want to serve God faithfully. Am I living in adultery? It has been unrelentingly awful.
jesusislord says
Brother – I’ve sent a private email on this to you…but David Instone-Brewer’s excellent resources are listed on our site. This is the best book and video series on the planet regarding your dilemma.
https://www.walkworthy.org/2015/11/divorce-and-remarriage-in-the-church-by-david-instone-brewer-resources/
https://www.walkworthy.org/2014/01/divorce-remarriage-by-david-instone-brewer-rightly-dividing-the-word-100/
Brother Marc